THINK IT, DO IT
Think it. Do it.
Is it easier said than done? Maybe.
When we go to therapy or work with a coach, we often gain new insights and tools to help us change our behaviour. But how many of us change? How many of us even want to change? Yesterday, I attended a digital nomad meet-up and had conversations with strangers about work, where we live, and how we live. Unexpectedly, someone asked me why I’m here on this planet. I replied, “That’s easy. I know exactly why I’m here.” I told them a story: when I was seven years old, I decided to be a kind human—kind to my family, kind to my friends, and kind to myself. As I grew older, I realised I’m also here to encourage others to live creatively, without judging the outcomes, and to inspire them through that freedom. To me, the greatest compliment someone can give is that they felt inspired and encouraged. That’s why I’m here. Not to become a Chief Marketing Officer, not to have millions in my bank account, or ticking off all my to do lists.
And with that comes a whole journey of growth.
When we look at trees or plants, we say they grow. We don’t say that they get older. We should use the same language for ourselves. Considering time, we get older, but I quite like the idea that we simply grow.
Some of us grow faster and reach insights earlier in life, while others do so a bit later. Everyone is on their path. It sounds easy, but how do we break a pattern that doesn't seem to be working for us? By responding differently. Changing how we do things and changing how we respond to things creates new reactions from which we can learn.
What pattern do you like to break and change right now? How about dating?
How about feeling frustrated about still being single and the dating world out there?
Feeling frustrated about still being single and about the dating world out there is such a huge topic for many of us. Society still tends to look at being single through a lens of lack. It’s seen as a temporary phase, not a valid long-term choice. If we’re not married or in a relationship, or even actively dating, we’re often viewed as strange, incomplete, or like there’s something wrong with us. And yes, society will keep asking us: “Why are you still single?” I’m honestly so tired of that question.
Being single is not a problem to solve. Imagine saying to someone in a relationship: “Oh, you’re still with someone? That must be hard. Are you okay?” It sounds ridiculous. Because it is. The real question in life isn’t whether you’re single or in a partnership. It’s:
How are you showing up? What do you bring to the people around you? Your relationship status doesn’t define your worth, your energy, your self-awareness, or your growth. Ask yourself: Why are you here? What brings you joy? What are you here to give? That’s what matters. Not whether you have a partner or endless dating options.
The series shown in the pictures is from the beginning of the year, and I called it Mani-Fest. Fest means celebration or party in life. What I liked to change this year was to pause and celebrate more, instead of analysing others, situations, prioritising life admin stuff, or the political news out there. I wanted to consciously invite more light, fun, and celebratory moments to appreciate where I am right now in my life and what great and positive things I have around me.